Are You Struggling To Emotionally Connect With Your Partner? 

When you argue with your partner, do you feel emotionally distant, misunderstood or invalidated? Perhaps one or both of you emotionally has shut down as you grow frustrated by the struggle to communicate your needs. Do you feel alone even when you are with your partner? Or maybe it seems like your partner is your roommate – not even someone you would call a good friend. If you have children, do you worry the negative patterns and tension in your relationship are harming them? Do you wish you could reconnect with your partner and build a loving bond that will last a lifetime?

If your relationship is in turmoil, you may feel the confusion, irritation and self-doubt following you into many areas of your life. You and your partner may feel like you are walking on eggshells when you are together as you both try to hold in your frustrations. At work, you may struggle to concentrate on your responsibilities because your mind is focused on something your partner said or what will happen when you get home. The stress of arguing with your partner may accumulate and cause you to feel physical pain, such as headaches and body aches. At the end of the day, you may feel hopeless because the one person who should love you unconditionally no longer understands you.

Wanting A Solid Relationship Foundation Is Common

Most couples face difficulties over the course of their partnerships, often due to the fact that many relationships are built on a weak foundation. When two people enter into a relationship with one another, they often skip the important step of establishing a safe emotional connection as well as a better understanding of expectations, values or desires. Without this building block, it’s very common for conflict and bitterness to accumulate over time, ultimately causing relationships to crumble. In addition, some couples do not realize that their past relationships with family members and previous partners can affect their perception of current relationships. Another crucial step, analyzing each individual partner’s history, can shed new light on his or her current struggles.

Whether you and your partner are struggling to rebuild your bond or simply want to construct a solid foundation before taking your relationship to the next level, couples counseling can help you foster a loving connection.

Strengthen The Emotional Bond In Your Relationship With Couples Counseling

During comfortable and compassionate couples counseling sessions, you, your partner and I will work together to create a safe space where you both can feel open to sharing your experiences, thoughts and feelings. Together, we will look back at your past relationships and role models to determine how these experiences may be affecting your dynamic with your partner.

Once you and your partner gain a fuller understanding of each other’s background, you will have the opportunity to set a goal for what you would like your relationship to look like. Then, we will walk through several steps to achieve your ideal bond, such as learning new ways tointeract and feel safe with your partner.

We will also work together to analyze your unique argument/disagreement patterns as well as the triggers that lead the two of you to heightened emotion and conflict. Depending on your personal needs, I will help you develop individualized strategies to stop conflict from occurring in the first place and to communicate in a healthy manner during an argument so you both feel understood.

If you and your partner are ready to take your relationship to the next level, couples counseling can help the two of you ensure you have a healthy foundation for a lifelong bond. Even though you may not face any struggles now, we will work on troubleshooting potential future problems. By understanding your emotional patterns during therapy sessions, you will be able to navigate life’s challenges, such as having a baby, switching careers, moving to a new city or retiring.

As a therapist who has been married for 27 years, I have learned a lot about how to heal and nurture relationships. I am also trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a collaborative approach that has been validated by more than 20 years of empirical research. No matter the stage of your relationship or how far you and your partner have drifted apart, the two of you have hope to build a fortified connection. Couples counseling can help you both feel loved, fulfilled and secure within your relationship.

You or your partner may still have questions and concerns about couples counseling…

What if I feel too vulnerable during sessions?

At first, it is very common to feel self-conscious about sharing your personal experiences with a couples counselor. You may worry that I will not side with you, or that your experiences will not be understood or validated. However, the truth is that I do not take sides and I strive to create a safe and comfortable environment. By overcoming your initial vulnerability, you can find great joy in strengthening your relationship with your partner.

Will the investment of our time, money and energy pay off?

Your relationship is very important to your overall happiness and livelihood. Success within your relationship can trickle into many areas of your life. You may find that your stress level decreases when you feel connected with, understood and cared for by your partner. Removing the burden of conflict with your partner may even increase your productivity at work. Also, the positive communication patterns you learn during couples counseling can even be applied to relationships with your family members and friends.

That said, it is important to note that couples counseling does take a considerable amount of time and energy to thoroughly complete. When you and your partner fully commit your efforts, you can experience all of the unique benefits counseling can offer.

We are worried about what others will think of us if we attend couples counseling.

Our sessions are 100 percent confidential so you and your partner do not need to be concerned that others will find out if you do not want them to. Even though some people see couples counseling as a sign of a bad or dysfunctional relationship, the truth is that taking the time to fine tune the connection with your partner is nothing to be ashamed of. We all need help from time to time. Seeking counseling from an experienced professional is a courageous and important step toward a loving and healthy partnership.

Build A Fortified Bond With Your Partner

If you and your partner are ready to work on your relationship and build a lasting connection with each other, don’t hesitate to contact me for a 30-minute free phone consultation to discuss your needs and how I can help. You can reach me at 602-549-4398 or contact me here.

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